After my post about helping others I started
thinking another way to help people is simply by being honest. I am not
necessarily referring to say, stopping someone whose money has fallen down and
giving it back to them. I am specifically talking about being honest with
people during conversation.
Honesty in conversation interests me particularly
regarding mothers speaking to other mothers. First, I must say
I have had many great conversations with others mothers and have witnessed
others experiencing the same. That being said, I am referring to the other
situations I have experienced or witnessed that left me discouraged.
I have been the mother and seen mothers who at their
wits end explain to another their frustrations, perceived failures, and fears
only to have their feelings of ineptness exasperated. The listening mother
gives nothing at all to the lady who desperately needs it; some kind of
encouragement, especially using her own life as an example.
When a mother is in front of you hinting or full
blown divulging her struggles as a mother it isn’t the time to act stoic and
uncomprehending. It’s the time to say “Oh man, I’ve felt that too! I was so
ashamed I didn’t know anybody else did!” When a mother you already know suffers
from ineptness don’t tell her you only
feed your kids organic, gluten free snacks while she’s shoving a bowl of
goldfish crackers into her babies hands to quiet him down. The examples are
endless so I’ll make myself stop, and some of those examples are so much DARKER
than goldfish crackers.
Nobody gets blessed from a mother who has all the
answers and pronounces them at every opportunity, not even the mother making the pronouncements.
Mothers DO get blessed though when there is revelation and honesty during these
times. The frustrated mother is blessed because she’s not alone and the other more
confident (in that certain area) mother is able to help and keep humble. It’s a
win-win!
"Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2
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